Bullies and a Change of Heart

Posted by Karen Hessen on Saturday, March 23, 2013 Under: Bullies
I enjoyed my monthly lunch with my sister, Amy, yesterday. It is always pleasant to revisit our past and to look at the things our adult children have accomplished, the challenges they have overcome and to champion them on as they continue to face obstacles in their lives. I had the privilege of meeting Amy's new puppy, Tytan. He promises to provide future fodder for my column "Out of the Ark." 
  

Amy is older than me by five years. I have always depended on her counsel. When we were growing up our father built a playhouse in our backyard.  We used it for a schoolhouse and Amy, of course, was the teacher. Before I began
kindergarten, she had taught me basic math skills, and I had a head start on reading. In those day clocks had faces and
hands. I was proficient at telling time. So, for my fifth birthday, I started kindergarten at four, I received a "Sleeping Beauty"
watch as a gift from my parents. I wore it to school proudly. The big kids at the bus stop had great fun with me that day.
They told me "Babies can't tell time." The chanted "Kindergarten baby" for the duration of the bus ride. I'm sure Amy came
to my defense. She always did. That was sixty years ago. I was being bullied.


Kurtis has suffered with bullying all of his life. In the book, Infinitely Trees, that I am writing about the lessons God taught
me while raising Kurtis, the most severely abused child to survive in the United States at the time his father and I adopted
him, there is a whole chapter on bullying and compassion. Here are Kurtis' own words from Infinitely Trees on the subject of
bullying:

            "When I was in grade school, starting fourth or fifth grade, I started getting picked on in school because I was slow in class or had a lift on my left shoe. I really hated having glasses because I was called “four eyes.” I also was picked on because girlfriends stuck up for me. I really hated school when the boys found out I was taking karate. They picked fights with me. But, I only use karate in self-defense. I hated getting in trouble because I was sticking up for myself. I remember one time; I was tripped a couple days before Thanksgiving during P.E. I bit clear through my lip and tongue and my teeth were loosened. That was the worst."

My words again:  I love the story in the Bible where the bullies (Pharissees) bring the woman caught in adultry to Jesus. They expect him to condemn her. Instead Jesus kneels down and begins writing in the dirt. The Bible doesn't tell us what Jesus writes but I like to think, after looking each of the bullies in the eye, he begins to write things like; self-righteousness, gossip, glutonny, covetousness, false witness, and lust - words that would condemn each and every one. Starting with the oldest first, they all turned and walked away, leaving her alone with Jesus. "Woman, is no one left to condemn you?" he asks. "Not one," she answers. "Then neither do I," he says. "Go and sin no more." (John 8:1-11)

If only we could, some how, show the bullies their own differences, the things that make them vulnerable to discrimination and torment, let them know that, yes, we see their uniqueness, but we choose to embrace them instead of ridicule them, to love them as opposed to reject them. We can pass antidiscrimination and laws against bullying. We have legislation that protects just about everyone from everything, but legislation does not change people's hearts. Jesus changes hearts.

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Bullies and a Change of Heart

Posted by Karen Hessen on Saturday, March 23, 2013 Under: Bullies
I enjoyed my monthly lunch with my sister, Amy, yesterday. It is always pleasant to revisit our past and to look at the things our adult children have accomplished, the challenges they have overcome and to champion them on as they continue to face obstacles in their lives. I had the privilege of meeting Amy's new puppy, Tytan. He promises to provide future fodder for my column "Out of the Ark." 
  

Amy is older than me by five years. I have always depended on her counsel. When we were growing up our father built a playhouse in our backyard.  We used it for a schoolhouse and Amy, of course, was the teacher. Before I began
kindergarten, she had taught me basic math skills, and I had a head start on reading. In those day clocks had faces and
hands. I was proficient at telling time. So, for my fifth birthday, I started kindergarten at four, I received a "Sleeping Beauty"
watch as a gift from my parents. I wore it to school proudly. The big kids at the bus stop had great fun with me that day.
They told me "Babies can't tell time." The chanted "Kindergarten baby" for the duration of the bus ride. I'm sure Amy came
to my defense. She always did. That was sixty years ago. I was being bullied.


Kurtis has suffered with bullying all of his life. In the book, Infinitely Trees, that I am writing about the lessons God taught
me while raising Kurtis, the most severely abused child to survive in the United States at the time his father and I adopted
him, there is a whole chapter on bullying and compassion. Here are Kurtis' own words from Infinitely Trees on the subject of
bullying:

            "When I was in grade school, starting fourth or fifth grade, I started getting picked on in school because I was slow in class or had a lift on my left shoe. I really hated having glasses because I was called “four eyes.” I also was picked on because girlfriends stuck up for me. I really hated school when the boys found out I was taking karate. They picked fights with me. But, I only use karate in self-defense. I hated getting in trouble because I was sticking up for myself. I remember one time; I was tripped a couple days before Thanksgiving during P.E. I bit clear through my lip and tongue and my teeth were loosened. That was the worst."

My words again:  I love the story in the Bible where the bullies (Pharissees) bring the woman caught in adultry to Jesus. They expect him to condemn her. Instead Jesus kneels down and begins writing in the dirt. The Bible doesn't tell us what Jesus writes but I like to think, after looking each of the bullies in the eye, he begins to write things like; self-righteousness, gossip, glutonny, covetousness, false witness, and lust - words that would condemn each and every one. Starting with the oldest first, they all turned and walked away, leaving her alone with Jesus. "Woman, is no one left to condemn you?" he asks. "Not one," she answers. "Then neither do I," he says. "Go and sin no more." (John 8:1-11)

If only we could, some how, show the bullies their own differences, the things that make them vulnerable to discrimination and torment, let them know that, yes, we see their uniqueness, but we choose to embrace them instead of ridicule them, to love them as opposed to reject them. We can pass antidiscrimination and laws against bullying. We have legislation that protects just about everyone from everything, but legislation does not change people's hearts. Jesus changes hearts.

In : Bullies 


Tags: kurtis bullying 
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Bullies and a Change of Heart

Posted by Karen Hessen on Saturday, March 23, 2013 Under: Bullies
I enjoyed my monthly lunch with my sister, Amy, yesterday. It is always pleasant to revisit our past and to look at the things our adult children have accomplished, the challenges they have overcome and to champion them on as they continue to face obstacles in their lives. I had the privilege of meeting Amy's new puppy, Tytan. He promises to provide future fodder for my column "Out of the Ark." 
  

Amy is older than me by five years. I have always depended on her counsel. When we were growing up our father built a playhouse in our backyard.  We used it for a schoolhouse and Amy, of course, was the teacher. Before I began
kindergarten, she had taught me basic math skills, and I had a head start on reading. In those day clocks had faces and
hands. I was proficient at telling time. So, for my fifth birthday, I started kindergarten at four, I received a "Sleeping Beauty"
watch as a gift from my parents. I wore it to school proudly. The big kids at the bus stop had great fun with me that day.
They told me "Babies can't tell time." The chanted "Kindergarten baby" for the duration of the bus ride. I'm sure Amy came
to my defense. She always did. That was sixty years ago. I was being bullied.


Kurtis has suffered with bullying all of his life. In the book, Infinitely Trees, that I am writing about the lessons God taught
me while raising Kurtis, the most severely abused child to survive in the United States at the time his father and I adopted
him, there is a whole chapter on bullying and compassion. Here are Kurtis' own words from Infinitely Trees on the subject of
bullying:

            "When I was in grade school, starting fourth or fifth grade, I started getting picked on in school because I was slow in class or had a lift on my left shoe. I really hated having glasses because I was called “four eyes.” I also was picked on because girlfriends stuck up for me. I really hated school when the boys found out I was taking karate. They picked fights with me. But, I only use karate in self-defense. I hated getting in trouble because I was sticking up for myself. I remember one time; I was tripped a couple days before Thanksgiving during P.E. I bit clear through my lip and tongue and my teeth were loosened. That was the worst."

My words again:  I love the story in the Bible where the bullies (Pharissees) bring the woman caught in adultry to Jesus. They expect him to condemn her. Instead Jesus kneels down and begins writing in the dirt. The Bible doesn't tell us what Jesus writes but I like to think, after looking each of the bullies in the eye, he begins to write things like; self-righteousness, gossip, glutonny, covetousness, false witness, and lust - words that would condemn each and every one. Starting with the oldest first, they all turned and walked away, leaving her alone with Jesus. "Woman, is no one left to condemn you?" he asks. "Not one," she answers. "Then neither do I," he says. "Go and sin no more." (John 8:1-11)

If only we could, some how, show the bullies their own differences, the things that make them vulnerable to discrimination and torment, let them know that, yes, we see their uniqueness, but we choose to embrace them instead of ridicule them, to love them as opposed to reject them. We can pass antidiscrimination and laws against bullying. We have legislation that protects just about everyone from everything, but legislation does not change people's hearts. Jesus changes hearts.

In : Bullies 


Tags: kurtis bullying 
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Bullies and a Change of Heart

Posted by Karen Hessen on Saturday, March 23, 2013 Under: Bullies
I enjoyed my monthly lunch with my sister, Amy, yesterday. It is always pleasant to revisit our past and to look at the things our adult children have accomplished, the challenges they have overcome and to champion them on as they continue to face obstacles in their lives. I had the privilege of meeting Amy's new puppy, Tytan. He promises to provide future fodder for my column "Out of the Ark." 
  

Amy is older than me by five years. I have always depended on her counsel. When we were growing up our father built a playhouse in our backyard.  We used it for a schoolhouse and Amy, of course, was the teacher. Before I began
kindergarten, she had taught me basic math skills, and I had a head start on reading. In those day clocks had faces and
hands. I was proficient at telling time. So, for my fifth birthday, I started kindergarten at four, I received a "Sleeping Beauty"
watch as a gift from my parents. I wore it to school proudly. The big kids at the bus stop had great fun with me that day.
They told me "Babies can't tell time." The chanted "Kindergarten baby" for the duration of the bus ride. I'm sure Amy came
to my defense. She always did. That was sixty years ago. I was being bullied.


Kurtis has suffered with bullying all of his life. In the book, Infinitely Trees, that I am writing about the lessons God taught
me while raising Kurtis, the most severely abused child to survive in the United States at the time his father and I adopted
him, there is a whole chapter on bullying and compassion. Here are Kurtis' own words from Infinitely Trees on the subject of
bullying:

            "When I was in grade school, starting fourth or fifth grade, I started getting picked on in school because I was slow in class or had a lift on my left shoe. I really hated having glasses because I was called “four eyes.” I also was picked on because girlfriends stuck up for me. I really hated school when the boys found out I was taking karate. They picked fights with me. But, I only use karate in self-defense. I hated getting in trouble because I was sticking up for myself. I remember one time; I was tripped a couple days before Thanksgiving during P.E. I bit clear through my lip and tongue and my teeth were loosened. That was the worst."

My words again:  I love the story in the Bible where the bullies (Pharissees) bring the woman caught in adultry to Jesus. They expect him to condemn her. Instead Jesus kneels down and begins writing in the dirt. The Bible doesn't tell us what Jesus writes but I like to think, after looking each of the bullies in the eye, he begins to write things like; self-righteousness, gossip, glutonny, covetousness, false witness, and lust - words that would condemn each and every one. Starting with the oldest first, they all turned and walked away, leaving her alone with Jesus. "Woman, is no one left to condemn you?" he asks. "Not one," she answers. "Then neither do I," he says. "Go and sin no more." (John 8:1-11)

If only we could, some how, show the bullies their own differences, the things that make them vulnerable to discrimination and torment, let them know that, yes, we see their uniqueness, but we choose to embrace them instead of ridicule them, to love them as opposed to reject them. We can pass antidiscrimination and laws against bullying. We have legislation that protects just about everyone from everything, but legislation does not change people's hearts. Jesus changes hearts.

In : Bullies 


Tags: kurtis bullying 
blog comments powered by Disqus

Bullies and a Change of Heart

Posted by Karen Hessen on Saturday, March 23, 2013 Under: Bullies
I enjoyed my monthly lunch with my sister, Amy, yesterday. It is always pleasant to revisit our past and to look at the things our adult children have accomplished, the challenges they have overcome and to champion them on as they continue to face obstacles in their lives. I had the privilege of meeting Amy's new puppy, Tytan. He promises to provide future fodder for my column "Out of the Ark." 
  

Amy is older than me by five years. I have always depended on her counsel. When we were growing up our father built a playhouse in our backyard.  We used it for a schoolhouse and Amy, of course, was the teacher. Before I began
kindergarten, she had taught me basic math skills, and I had a head start on reading. In those day clocks had faces and
hands. I was proficient at telling time. So, for my fifth birthday, I started kindergarten at four, I received a "Sleeping Beauty"
watch as a gift from my parents. I wore it to school proudly. The big kids at the bus stop had great fun with me that day.
They told me "Babies can't tell time." The chanted "Kindergarten baby" for the duration of the bus ride. I'm sure Amy came
to my defense. She always did. That was sixty years ago. I was being bullied.


Kurtis has suffered with bullying all of his life. In the book, Infinitely Trees, that I am writing about the lessons God taught
me while raising Kurtis, the most severely abused child to survive in the United States at the time his father and I adopted
him, there is a whole chapter on bullying and compassion. Here are Kurtis' own words from Infinitely Trees on the subject of
bullying:

            "When I was in grade school, starting fourth or fifth grade, I started getting picked on in school because I was slow in class or had a lift on my left shoe. I really hated having glasses because I was called “four eyes.” I also was picked on because girlfriends stuck up for me. I really hated school when the boys found out I was taking karate. They picked fights with me. But, I only use karate in self-defense. I hated getting in trouble because I was sticking up for myself. I remember one time; I was tripped a couple days before Thanksgiving during P.E. I bit clear through my lip and tongue and my teeth were loosened. That was the worst."

My words again:  I love the story in the Bible where the bullies (Pharissees) bring the woman caught in adultry to Jesus. They expect him to condemn her. Instead Jesus kneels down and begins writing in the dirt. The Bible doesn't tell us what Jesus writes but I like to think, after looking each of the bullies in the eye, he begins to write things like; self-righteousness, gossip, glutonny, covetousness, false witness, and lust - words that would condemn each and every one. Starting with the oldest first, they all turned and walked away, leaving her alone with Jesus. "Woman, is no one left to condemn you?" he asks. "Not one," she answers. "Then neither do I," he says. "Go and sin no more." (John 8:1-11)

If only we could, some how, show the bullies their own differences, the things that make them vulnerable to discrimination and torment, let them know that, yes, we see their uniqueness, but we choose to embrace them instead of ridicule them, to love them as opposed to reject them. We can pass antidiscrimination and laws against bullying. We have legislation that protects just about everyone from everything, but legislation does not change people's hearts. Jesus changes hearts.

In : Bullies 


Tags: kurtis bullying 
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